Monday, 20 February 2012
Little things , big difference
I had to think about what I could do to make that part of the day better for the three of us. Having identified the causes of the general upset, I considered what I could do to try to ease the situation. With my daughter, I lay her down in her cot when she was tired. It was often only five minutes before we needed to leave but it gave my son and I five minutes of quiet to get ourselves ready and meant she was less miserable being kept up. She still cried when I then got her up and dressd her for the cold outside but it was a whole lot less crying overall.
For my son, I tried to make the whole getting ready to leave process calmer to make him feel less hurried. I told him he didn't need to put his hat on until we got outside so it was one less thing to put on at that moment. I tried to be a lot more cheery myself too, to try to create a happy atmosphere for everyone.
Not every morning was the same and I didn't do all those things every morning necessarily but those small steps made a huge difference. We still left rushing but everyone was a lot calmer and happier and it made for a much more pleasant start to the day.
Now my daughter is staying awake longer so we don't get the crying like we did at first. The temperatures warmed up a little so gloves and hat are not needed so often for my son. A lot can change in a short time, as you well know.
Sometimes when we are in the thick of a frustrating or difficult time, we fail to recognise that making a small change or two to the way we do something can make a big difference. Can you think of any situation where you were able to improve it by doing one or two little things?