tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2803711858607651915.post1316113112583173614..comments2023-10-03T13:21:20.389+01:00Comments on Mummy Zen: This week: The trying threes!Mummy Zenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10061207010010322559noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2803711858607651915.post-12162720100236598602013-09-17T01:00:12.253+01:002013-09-17T01:00:12.253+01:00My daughter tells me she don't like me or her ...My daughter tells me she don't like me or her daddy and everyone is just so mean to her....drama queen I ignore her!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2803711858607651915.post-66767356587726506302012-07-18T20:24:47.995+01:002012-07-18T20:24:47.995+01:008? Noooooo! I'm going to need to buy in Bach&#...8? Noooooo! I'm going to need to buy in Bach's Rescue Remedy in bulk if it goes on that long. And maybe gin. Lots of gin! ;)Beadzoidhttp://mommy-beadzoid.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2803711858607651915.post-49816768849197411742012-07-18T20:21:48.717+01:002012-07-18T20:21:48.717+01:00Well to update my daughter almost whooped with joy...Well to update my daughter almost whooped with joy when we first started mentioning the step! Not the desired effect :) However, she soon seemed to understand the meaning, and like your son with his bedroom, the mention often suffices. Thankfully it's not on a regular basis that we've had to use or mention it - otherwise I'm sure it would lose it's power. It's also not an option in town when she throws a huge strop, but you can use the principle. I made her stand next to a shop window while I insisted standing a little further away - still in proximity, of course, but enough for her to recognise the distance as symbolic that she was being isolated to calm down and take time out. I got a few pitying/odd looks from people, but it worked and it worked quite quickly. I just hope that I don't have to utilise it too often!!!Beadzoidhttp://mommy-beadzoid.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2803711858607651915.post-28148754795259084172012-07-10T14:09:22.510+01:002012-07-10T14:09:22.510+01:00@Beadzoid - funny this was a timely post for you.....@Beadzoid - funny this was a timely post for you....or maybe not! I send my son to sit in his bedroom to calm down instead of the naughty step and he also responded well to it. To focus on the positive, we've needed to do it less and less recently and sometimes the mention of him going to his room is enough to placate him.<br /><br />@Kate - hello! Thanks for commenting, although you are the bearer of bad news! I guess it does carry on intermittently for quite a long time when you think about the teenage years to come! I definiely agree with you about walking out of the room sometimes being a good way to remove yourself from the situation.<br /><br />You both refer to times when it is particularly hard to stay calm and you're right, those moments really make it extra challenging. When circumstances force you into doing something like getting ready for school or having to stay inside with bad weather, your time and resources for dealing with the difficult behaviour are restricted somewhat. Not easy for sure!Mummy Zenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10061207010010322559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2803711858607651915.post-91671703344216107612012-07-10T09:23:04.325+01:002012-07-10T09:23:04.325+01:00Hello! I am having trouble with my eight year old ...Hello! I am having trouble with my eight year old daughter, so I'm afraid, it can carry on! She shouts, refuses to do what she's asked, and when she is told off, she tells us to shush. It's really hard to remain calm, but I am going to try harder. It's so frustrating though when time is short, like getting ready for school. <br /><br />Sometimes a good thing to do is just to walk out of the room and shut yourself away for a few minutes, although I haven't done that recently.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14967282294766601919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2803711858607651915.post-47476193064060333802012-07-09T21:52:27.262+01:002012-07-09T21:52:27.262+01:00Oh my goodness! this is so timely!!!
Last week my...Oh my goodness! this is so timely!!!<br /><br />Last week my lovely soon-to-be-3-year old turned into the devil! Unlike you, I have been told to stop talking, and to shut up. I'm guessing she's picked it up from other children (I'm pretty sure it's not us!) but she even did it to her grandparents the other day and I was mortified - particularly as both son and first grandchild were as docile as can be. <br /><br />I too have been trying strategies to not get as stressed (rewarding the behaviour, yadda yaa) - particularly hard last week as my daughter and I went stir crazy with no car and torrential downpours making trips out very difficult. Add to that the hundreds incurred in storm damage, and the Internet going down for most of the week and mummy was very frazzled.<br /><br />Now things are better I am trying to calm myself before modelling calmer behaviour. I have given in to the time out (calling it a time out, rather than naughty step) and she has responded really positively to it. Some tantrums however cannot be averted and they just have to run their course.<br /><br />Not easy though, is it? :/Beadzoidhttp://mommy-beadzoid.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com